In her blog Green writes:

"It seems to me that married sex is the final frontier with regard to social taboos. But what I can't figure out is whether nobody talks about it because they don't want to be the subject of gossip, or if nobody talks about it because they're afraid to find out that they're doing it less than everyone else. But then again, maybe it's nice to just not know. Because in this world of competitive parenting, where mothers judge each other on a daily basis, where parents are constantly comparing how smart, how cute, how thin, how precocious their children are to everyone else's, where people can find out what you paid for your house with just a mouse click, it is kind of refreshing to have one thing in your life that isn't held up to a standard of what everyone else is doing, and that doesn't come with any pressure from the outside world."

Does it really matter whether we're "doing it" more than once a week? Is it anyone else's business? I'd have to say I agree with Green (whose weekly columns are always interesting).

The comments her readers have posted proved illuminating too, one in particular where a woman tells how she's been dealing with a "ornery, impatient and often angry husband for many years". She made the decision to "do it" a couple of times a week and now her husband is "patient, loving, kind and helpful".

Her comment reminded me of a book I once reviewed that promoted a "five minute fix" for relationships that were a tad rocky. What could it be? A quick quiz, giving each other affirmations every day? Nope. It advocated oral sex every day as a means of bettering your relationship. And the book was written by a woman too.

Are these good reasons to start having more regular sex?

It will be interesting to get my hands on (and even using that phrase in this context worries me) a copy of 365 Nights, when it's published by Murdoch Books here in Australia in October.

Until then, I'll make do with "doing it'' ____ times a week.

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